These years of blogging through my Asperger's Journey have been very, very helpful for me. I understand some of my children, my spouse, and some other family members so much better now. And I am so thankful to God for giving wisdom. And thankful for all of you who commented and shared your insights and encouragement!
I do believe you can have a relationship with an aspie. I do believe you can learn good ways to communicate with an aspie. I do know it is very hard work. I also know it can be extremely rewarding.
The Jan Silvious "Foolproofing Your Life" book really threw a wrench in things for me. Because while I believe one can successfully communicate with an aspie, I do not believe one can communicate well with a fool. And I believe I am dealing with an aspie . . . who is also a fool.
One who is consistently acting foolishly, at least. And I believe God can change him. And as far as the marriage goes, I'm not going anywhere . . . not physically anyway. But my expectations for "Good Aspergers Relationship" are now erased and replaced with "Let a man meet a bear robbed of her cubs rather than a fool in his folly." You see, I've been foolish myself for too long. But I am emotionally distanced now. I've moved from trying to hiding. Communicating with the polite kindness one would show to a stranger.
And the crazy thing is . . . I am so much more content. Peaceful. More rested.
I think my blog is now complete. (Blog2Print dot com has a 15% off sale code simplysave15 and I plan to print a copy keepsake blog book and cease posting here. Anyone is welcome to print any parts of this blog. I have no copyright.)
I encourage you to keep learning about Asperger's Syndrome, and to keep loving your aspies. They are not all fools. (And God can make the foolish wise!) I will always keep praying.