It's been a couple of years now, and my aspie spouse still won't read anything about asperger's syndrome. I recently asked him if his mom, his sister, his wife, and a psychologist all told him they believe he has asperger's syndrome . . . would he believe it? You know what he said?
Well, alrighty then! So . . . that leaves me where? Right where I've always been. Reading, researching, doing all I can to communicate as best I can. It's all on me. As it's always been.
I'm learning to take this one day at a time. One issue at a time. The big picture is overwhelming, I know. But at this exact moment, I'm doing okay. Live moment by moment, ladies! That's the best advice I can give you (or anyone, really).