Just have to pop in and share this helpful resource for Christian spouses who are married to someone with Aspergers Syndrome. The book is Family Vocation: God's Calling in Marriage, Parenting, and Childhood by Gene Edward Veith jr. and Mary J. Moerbe. Also available with Kindle app.
I've only read some of the chapter on marriage and it's got some powerful points. Some very strong emphasis on authority and submission (maybe a little too strong even for me, ahem), but some helpful meat for aspie spouses to chew on as well.
Here's a morsel from page 99 of 233:
"Spouses should also realize that in this fallen world, not all problems can be solved. A cross cannot be made to disappear by applying some simple formula or technique. A cross has to be borne. Distinguishing between problems and crosses can be very helpful, practically speaking. A problem, such as a disagreement, may indeed have a solution. But something like grief or a disability or an intransigent characteristic of one's spouse cannot be "fixed" but only borne."
But wait, there's more. :) You're not left with 'grin and bear it' or even just 'hang in there' but rather with encouragement about forgiveness, the importance of not suffering alone but rather reaching out to other Christians to help you, the fact that we are all sinners, etc.
So what is Aspergers, huh? A problem to be solved? Hmmm... the communication troubles are problems that can (sometimes) be worked through. But the "intransigent characteristic of one's spouse"? Well, that . . . aspergers . . . must be borne.
Keep chewing and chewing so you can break it up until able to swallow.
Try super hard not to spit, okay?