From the book Boundaries:
"Let go. Face what you will never have from this person, or who this person symbolizes. This will be like a funeral. You will go through the stages of grief--denial, bargaining, anger, sadness, acceptance.... You will be amazed at how much can change in your life when you finally begin to let go of what you can never have.
Letting go is the way to serenity. Grief is the path."