tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1026421087737007766.post3645833512185116992..comments2023-04-27T00:25:58.489-07:00Comments on Aspie Wife, Aspie Mom: Putting Your Own Oxygen Mask On (first)aspmomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01642480111576417752noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1026421087737007766.post-19090789810284799062011-09-20T21:40:58.890-07:002011-09-20T21:40:58.890-07:00A little afraid to post this...sometimes my hubby ...A little afraid to post this...sometimes my hubby checks history. He doesn't believe in AP, but he and my son both have it. They clash with one another and have different manifestations. I can relate to your many sad, conflicting feelings. I recently allowed myself to have an out burst--never sure if I've caused damage to our marriage in those situations. We are both church leaders, busy, busy, homeschooling, and I teach at a co op. Life with this added issue (AS) is so exhausting and lonely. I must remember my "True Lover" is Christ Himself, though I will always long to be understood and appreciated by my spouseAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1026421087737007766.post-73369533959960581342011-08-28T06:14:59.303-07:002011-08-28T06:14:59.303-07:00Thanks for a helpful blog! We also have multiple, ...Thanks for a helpful blog! We also have multiple, serious problems going on in our lives right now. I am working hard on finding myself again in all this. We've been together for 16 years and I only found out about his AS half a year ago. All our struggles suddenly 'made sense'. If I was financially independent I would have lived on my own again now. I too feel more lonely living with him than when I'm on my own. Having said that, I know it will be incredibly hard for me to break up. We have talked about a separation, and he doesn't quite understand why I can't hold out for the sake of our child. For my own health's sake, I know in my heart what I have to do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1026421087737007766.post-89200853920408982932011-08-21T10:02:20.914-07:002011-08-21T10:02:20.914-07:00"...Normally I am overcome with guilt and wou..."...Normally I am overcome with guilt and would work despite my weakness and exhaustion...<br /><br />If you worked despite your weakness and exhaustion, you'd have given him a reward (clean dishes without having to scrub them himself *and* without having to help you get less tired first) for how badly he treated you. :( Your husband is not God and being God's servant doesn't mean being your husband's servant.<br /><br />"...but this time I went to bed. If he can't take care of his wife when she is nearing nervous and physical breakdown then I'm going to have to take care of myself and not give a damn what he thinks about it.<br /><br />"Sorry for the negativity..."<br /><br />Negativity? This is *positive*! You stood up for yourself! :DAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1026421087737007766.post-81662801930186982462011-08-14T22:50:11.472-07:002011-08-14T22:50:11.472-07:00Just looking for other women who can understand wh...Just looking for other women who can understand what I'm going through. . . feeling so lonely. Looks like I found you all :)kuklakohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08538753994023058663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1026421087737007766.post-81517713021301734462011-07-16T12:06:44.034-07:002011-07-16T12:06:44.034-07:00I have lived "your life" over 30 years.....I have lived "your life" over 30 years....I'm so exhausted and terribly lonely! <br />I know what you are going through and I just can pray to God to help us...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1026421087737007766.post-82192955670715878392011-07-16T06:11:27.689-07:002011-07-16T06:11:27.689-07:00Praying for you! I could have written this post. I...Praying for you! I could have written this post. I think you are very special, to be able to cope with your situation. Being an aspie wife is not for the faint of heart. I admire you!Susanhttp://www.girlsinwhitedresses.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1026421087737007766.post-2334821959662338942011-07-15T15:43:21.834-07:002011-07-15T15:43:21.834-07:00Thank you ladies for the encouraging words!
:)Thank you ladies for the encouraging words!<br /><br />:)aspmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01642480111576417752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1026421087737007766.post-9842147119930170232011-07-14T13:02:45.529-07:002011-07-14T13:02:45.529-07:00Sorry to hear you're doing as badly as me!
I ...Sorry to hear you're doing as badly as me! <br />I have thought about the line about putting your own mask on first several times since your previous post. <br />Not that I've done it, but I've thought about it. <br />Thinking of you and hoping things get better for both of us!Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12165762656350155203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1026421087737007766.post-27330234980416571872011-07-14T05:50:23.317-07:002011-07-14T05:50:23.317-07:00Please do take care of yourself. I totally know h...Please do take care of yourself. I totally know how you feel. My husband and I are in the middle of relocating so people are helping me because they know I'm alone, but I don't actually feel much more alone than when we are living under the same roof, so I totally get the invisible burden. Please do take care of yourself, you husband will always take care of himself first because he is made that way - we have to learn how to do that because we are so used to give, give, giving. Oh and when you are trying to tell him how you feel, melodramatic is the only way to go! He can't do empathy, it's just not going to happen. When you can think straight try to explain in terms of consequences. You are under stress and exhausted therefore you can't do x,y and z - so please can he do it. God bless, keep praying (I will too)Princess Moraghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12487488036461371867noreply@blogger.com