tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1026421087737007766.post4392772425924823628..comments2023-04-27T00:25:58.489-07:00Comments on Aspie Wife, Aspie Mom: Understanding Reality for an Aspie's Wifeaspmomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01642480111576417752noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1026421087737007766.post-15949233995409579712010-04-12T15:25:14.496-07:002010-04-12T15:25:14.496-07:00It feels a bit negative and one-sided. There can b...It feels a bit negative and one-sided. There can be an emotional connection but it's not going to be "all the time".<br /><br />It also depends on how hard both partners try to communicate.<br /><br />...<br /><br />Don't take this next part too personally. It's a reaction to the book, not to you.<br /><br /><br />"You can love him even when he is cold". <br /><br />This phrase is terribly callous.<br /><br />Things look quite different from the other side of the fence. NTs look quite different to us.<br /><br />Don't think that simply because you think Aspies are "cold" that aspies think you're "warm" or "hot". The words "overstimulating", "over excitable", "fake" and "irritating" come to mind.<br /><br />The sad thing is that neither of the partners in an aspie/nt relationship is exactly what the other one wants or needs. In fact, were often the opposite.<br /><br />It's not all doom and gloom though. Many supportive behaviours can be learned. Good communication will often allow you to meet halfway and allow you to both get what you need out of the relationship.Gavin Bollardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13833941398375568706noreply@blogger.com