tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1026421087737007766.post2406483632111840253..comments2023-04-27T00:25:58.489-07:00Comments on Aspie Wife, Aspie Mom: The Aspie Caregiver and Chronic Illnessaspmomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01642480111576417752noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1026421087737007766.post-71670500917845837532011-09-18T09:39:23.512-07:002011-09-18T09:39:23.512-07:00Damn, I really thought I was alone in the universe...Damn, I really thought I was alone in the universe of Autism Spousal World. My spouse is AS / SPID and all three of my kids are ASD (mix 'n match your fun). I consider it the ultimate cosmic irony that I'm personally off the scale intuitive and yet live in a household surrounded by others who can't read any social cues. At least I have good whiskey and my health is intact. My sanity? Hmmmmmm.JDhttp://theblueorchidoftexas.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1026421087737007766.post-47747288272124412232011-08-29T10:10:14.480-07:002011-08-29T10:10:14.480-07:00My husband has a lot of traits of AS - it was not ...My husband has a lot of traits of AS - it was not a major issue until we had children and I developed chronic and acute neck problems - his lack of empathy and evident irritation with weakness is worrying me as I am the main care giver for the family and when I am unable to do this he is not able or willing to pick up the slack. He told me once that if my health was poor in the future he would put me in a home - I laughed about it as it is such a typical thing for him to say but it scares me because I know that he can't cope with illness and I don't think he would stick around if I was unable to care for the family. He is such a good and lovely man but sometimes I feel very alone because for me being able to rely on someone is part of a marriage but for him it is not.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1026421087737007766.post-60965667851086591932011-08-28T06:31:48.465-07:002011-08-28T06:31:48.465-07:00I recognize everything you're saying in this p...I recognize everything you're saying in this post. Once I had the flu, my AS husband insisted I should still get on with things (as he had work to do.) This is what he said: "What do you think single parents do when they get sick? They still have to get out of bed to take care of their kids!" (This was some time before I suspected he had aspergers.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1026421087737007766.post-91547155826193542512011-08-21T09:58:29.069-07:002011-08-21T09:58:29.069-07:00"...My child says "my head and throat hu..."...My child says "my head and throat hurt so bad!" Aspie father says "I think you're fine." Just because he is walking around and not vomiting doesn't mean he is not sick!..."<br /><br />That's horrifying!<br /><br />The Aspie father in this example is doing the same thing as a neglectful NT father would do, even though he's doing it for a different reason.<br /><br />No matter what the father's *intention* behind this thoughtlessness is, no matter what his neurology is, the *action* he does in this example is the same and so the *effect on the child* is the same - the effect of a father neglecting his child with a sore throat.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com